Jane Chima

The most memorable day of my life will always be my b'day. I can guess it's urs too. Today is my birthday, so I have the luxury of recounting all I've done for the year that's about to end. The end of this year also marks the end of this decade. I grew up to be a woman in this decade. Loved in this decade and for a while, lost myself and my way to God. I also found my way slowly back to Him. I had so many opportunities good and bad which I took seriously and unseriously. This decade began with me starting my senior secondary education, sitting and failing my WAEC/O'levels which i didn't take well at all. Started having serious relationships, going out in the real world not knowing what's really there. Worked with Tell communications ltd which helped me realise that I have a long way to go, first as a security operative then as an office assistant a year and a month later- through the Managing Editor who saw something 'unique' in me. Now am finally cl...

Everytime I start to relax and believe that there is a different man in this world I tend to be disappointed? Why? Is there no religious or traditional man out there. What's happening? Do men have to lie to get into our pants? I can't help but say that my lack of faith in humanity has been founded. Look at Santa of all people. He started by preaching to me. what happened to practicing what you preach. The last time we went out, he actually suggested that I join him (this was at 2am) in his house after he dropped me @ home. My mind recalled the warning signs that's been there from the first day we met when he asked me to choose having sex with him that night and going for the total experience at the TBS. I refused ofcourse and choose the later. I also remember that I told him that i can't and shouldn't have anyting to do with a married man. He told me he was separated from his wife. I replied by saying, "it doesn't metter to me separated or not u're stil...

My santa (u remember) came back yesterday. i felt well, he's definetly going to brighten my week. he called me, told me he had a load of work to do today. I was disappointed but he was quick to reassure me. told me he would make out time and pick me up later tonite. My world lit up. The time ve been waiting for for a week has come. I couldn't wait for his next call. I started dancing and doing things i never thought i would be able to do; preparing my mind for things i would tell him when i see him: what my dad said, my school fees, boyfriends, everything. I remembered that I share with him my innermost thoughts and feelings. I can't remember feeling this safe with anyone like this before. 'Twas like i told him an angel sent from God to me. I guess 1 reason why i felt so safe with him is because he never made any advances towards me. Am grateful though, one tiny part of me asked if it was wise but i ignored it. After all i can't be an ice maiden for life. I just cn...

Have u ever loved somebody so much it makes u cry? Have u ever needed something so bad u can't sleep at night? have u ever tried to find the words but they don't come out right? Have you ever? Have you ever? That's from one of my favorite artistes; Brandy. Am sure each and ev'ry one of us have had one of those moments. Momens where u ask ursef if u're doing,done or said the right thing, if u made the right decision, or taken the right step. I'll be twenty-two next thursday, and i've found myself asking myself those questions . Funny isn't it? While in high school, i had great hopes and dreams about what i wanted to be, where i wanted to be and who i wanted to be. It didn't occur to me that i'd have to tackle with betrayals, struggles, temptations and trials plus so much more. I was an innocent in every sense of the word. All i knew how to do best was read. I'd go to classes everyday with a copy of Diane Castell, Nora Roberts or any romantic ...

Last night, i went out with one of the most cunniest men. When i was with Tell he paid me all the attention he taught i needed. He took me to my fav eatery. Bought me nothing more than water, salad or meatpies. Told me he loves me, thinking that would sway me. He tells me "u're a good girl please keep it up. but don't let anyone spoil u, remain as u are, u're too gullible"And when he saw that it was going nowhere either, he told me he wants to marry me. I told him i wasn't interested. He stopped troubling me; moved on to another girl. Few days ago i got a phone call. guess who it was;Mr love. and am like "ooh God here we go again what does he want". he sets up a date insist on coming to my school to pick me up. I tot that was an improvement. Though he didn't come;he doesn't always fulfil his promises, he asked that i meet him at the "usual point". I told myself i would talk but i won't reveal too much. if he starts his "I l...

Wikipedia defines Virginity as a state of being a vigin. A virgin or a maiden is a woman who's never had sexual intercourse. The word "Virgin" was derived from the Latin Virgo, which means"sexually inexperienced woman". It was meant for adolescents, older women and godesses. Virginity was once regarded as a state of purity and thing of value, somthing to be proud of. There were some traditions, in those days, who regard the loss of virginity before marriage is a matter of deep shame to a family . Now it seems no one wants to be left out of things. Virginity is now seen as a thing of shame in the society. It's ironic how things have changed. Some people think virginity is a curse. They say one has be disvirgined before marriage to allow easy childbirth.What is the world turning into? Safe sex is even much more preached than abstinence. Deciding you want to remain a virgin is one of the most difficcult choices one can ever make. Especially when faced with ...

Hi guys, Last monday morning found me walking on air. I can hear questions; why?I had the most wonderful I mean the best weekend of my life. I met my own Santa. I've been working on this piece since that day, hoping to finsh it but work cum daydreaming wouln't let me.Seriously, am not kidding. I don't mean the red garbed man, no, A real man, different in all ramifications.Hold on let bring my head down from the clouds. Many of us find ourselves in situations where we can't help ourselves. We think dreams are for the would-be cinderrellas or the unserious type. But it is not true. The more you dream about what u want from life, who u want to be and where u want to be, the more u start thinking about putting it to practice, realising it or actualizing, then u're on ur way to achievement. That was just a digression. A week before I meeting my santa, I was depressed. That's depressed with a capital 'D'. I understood why girls my age go into sex hawking. A bo...

This is my first first post so i have to make it right. I'll start with this post on women and sex. I pray you'd enjoy it as others have. Apart from procreation, sex is one of the best experience that can ever happen especially to women after viginity. Gone are the days when women simply have sex to “increase the line”, or lay back while their Men “finish the deed” Women now have sex for exercise, pure fun or because they are really “itching to have it scratched”. Why do women love sex? 29 year old beautician in Lagos state, Seun Adegoke, believes most women have sex to release stress and to make them feel good. Sex, she says takes her mind off worries she may have had during the day. She says “It is like a pill or a drug, which most women can't live without”. Nigerian sex workers think like wise. Most of them don't have sex mainly for money, no, an anonymous partner of the trade says she's into the business because it makes her feel like she's worthy. So many o...