Jane Chima

Being a Woman in 2020 is:  Being called a person who menstruates. Being called a tree because; no child Being called a man because you’re decisive and self motivated Becoming a bread winner because hubby lost his job Being a humble Bread Winner to avoid being called a witch who cost her husband his livelihood   Saying NO to rape Saying NO to molestations Saying No to Female Genital mutilations Saying   No to unwanted affections Saying NO to harassments of all kinds Saying NO to domestic abuse.   Having to explain CONSENT Having no desire for sex at 18 Having to explain your passion for work and why you need to make a living Having a husband who prefers to live single while being married to you Having to explain your singleness in your 30s Having to explain being 40 and having no children   Choosing to live alone and being badgered for it Choosing comfort over savings Choosing to trek home rather than accept free rides ...

October 26, 2019 and November 2, 2019 became two of the best and memorable days in my family.  Eze Chima  got married to his Queen and I have unofficial pictures.... and some social media posts. lol                                                                                                                     The Wedding Programme                                                                                                 ...

Kim K inspires me Kim Kardashian-West inspires me. Yes, you read that right. She has made a lot of mistakes, keeps making mistakes and then owns up to them. You know that there are people who will never acknowledge their mistakes, right? I remember when she was pregnant with North and came to Nigeria to host one of Darey’s shows. I also remember Nigerians dragging her on Social Media for calling us monkeys. That story was fabricated but she still came out to tell us with respect that she loved her time in Nigeria. She does not care what people think about her mistakes or her past but she uses their thoughts/actions against them. She also makes money from the negativity… How cool is that? I am not an obsessive fan like the Beyhive but I love giving credit to whom credit is due. Kimye and Taylor when the going was good...Pic from Vox.com After having an eventful weekend in which a contender for Mr. Chima(lol) told me that we(meaning that I did, after all his stupid ...

For would be land owners in Nigeria especially Lagos, owning a property can be risky especially if you don’t go through the proper channels. I have heard many sad tales of how “ Omo niles” snatched from unsuspecting land owners. The following are steps to take before buying a landed property or house: knowledge : Get adequate information about lands and property investment. It is advisable you check with experienced buyers or read all you can about them. Newspaper property sections, magazines, books, etc based on property acquisition should not be far from you.  §         BUDGET : Realestate investment is a lifetime event, if you must know. So before you buy that land or house, you must plan and work it into your budget what type of house;  2,3,4 bedroom bungalow you want. Bearing in mind that they all have different costs.  §         AGENT/DEVELOPER : In Nigeria it is safer for you to procure the services of credible Land Agen...

Oh yes, they are. they are an inspiration for youngsters of today whose interests are in Afro hip-hop. Recently, they were nominated along with M.I, etc, for the BET  10th Annual Awards as the best international acts. Yes, BET for B lack E ntertainment T elevision. Naturally, I'm happy that Nigerians are getting recognition as they should, but I gotta give it to P-square . A few weeks ago, they were awarded the highest award in Africa, in music, at the Kora Music awards  as the Best African Act. To be fair, I've had a crush on the both of them particularly Peter ever since there first classic hit "Last night". Their moves and grooves always keeps me at the edge of my seat. The release of the "Senorita" video kept me entralled and couldn't stop many of us fans, from loving them more and more. Since 2003 till date, P-square has released a total of four(4) albums which has garnered them lots of fans, fame, nominations and awards nationall ...

Two weeks ago, I was going through my profile in one of my numerous social websites, when I came accross an information that would become a bomb, literally speaking, in the entertainment industry; Genevieve is dating D'banj, D'banj confirms it! What?!! was my first thought. these journalist are at "it" again writing so they can make a few bucks. How could someone publish such rubbish? It can't be true. Salt and oil can't mix or so I thought. A week later when Genevieve was asked to confirm the news she neither confirmed nor denied the claim made by D'banj. She was quoted by Encomium magazine  saying: "I can only say that I would like to keep my private life private and I really don't have anything to say" and "Dbanj is an adult and he has said something. Let's just leave it at that, " Surely, we  your loyal fans deserve some answers, Genevieve. We don't mean to pry into your private affairs but we care for yo...

Was bored last afternoon, so I decided to join a yahoo chat room. Signing in to yahoo messenger took me no time at all. Ignoring my offline messages, I went straight to Yahoo Messenger joining, the 20's chat room but was dumbfounded by what I saw: "Honey women see me live on my webcam"    and            " how to find free sex online" Eyes poppingI left the room immediately. Checking other rooms I found the same results. Eeeeeeh, where can I find Tru talk without sex? I wondered. Guys and girls wanting to be laid are everywhere. I don't want to be laid, I fumed, I just want to talk. Just talk. I remembered an experience I won't easily forget. Late last year I met someone online. I'll call him Rob, a Nigerian. I felt lucky we'd talk on phone and online. We talked about everything. Then out of the blue he wanted sex online or on phone. I was disappointed. To cut the story short, we decided not t...

I enjoy Facebook totally. I mean it's a friend I may never have. I can share my thoughts and opinions whether it makes sense or not. Before I joined, I always wondered what it was like and I would look at the users and wonder what would make them spend hours on end on that particular social website. I called it a waste of time and money. Then I was tempted into registering having no idea what I was getting myself into. I must admit that I've come to find succour in that social networking site. If am pissed, happy and sad I can share it with people who don't know me from Adam, but may feel the same way I feel and tell me what to do about it. I know there are big risks involved in giving your private information to people you barely know but it pales in comparison to the positivity of meeting people online who share the same values, beliefs, aspirations, feelings and hopes that you have. Opinions vary on facebook.Some may see it as an avenue for defraudin...

http://www.momlogic.com/2010/02/valentines_day_aftermath.php Being Single is one of the best thing that has ever happened to us. It is a time you think and feel only you. You have more time for yourself,  time to set priorities, create and achieve goals and objectives.  Unfortunately, many females to do not agree with this fact. We are always in a hurry to get married because; My clock is ticking My mates are already married   Indeed my Mom reminds of my single status most times that I'd begin to wonder if it's a a crime or my wish to remain single. Whichever reasons we may have, it is important to note that being single doesn't mean being lonely. It is not a crime but is it by choice. It means freedom, making your own decisions at your own time, space and risk. No inhibitions. Opportunities abound that you can only grasp by being a single person so here are tips to enjoying your singlehood; Making tim...

I met a special friend on Yahoo and while we were chatting, I asked him about his own definition and understanding of a marriage. Hear what he said;  "Man is a social animal. He or she can't survive that much easy alone so they need emotional or financial support to survive in the world. If two people get married it means they need to support each other emotionally or financially  or both if there's no support also if they stick together thats called a good marriage, but if they start non support and plotting against each other is called hell hell of a marriage " He went further to say that marriage is compared to life. A  successful marriage is compared to heaven, that the ingredient to a successful marriage or steps to successfull marriage is LOVE(divine). It should be between couples who are bonded.    May be LOVE should bond them to marriage or marriage should bond them to LOV...

Which one is better? What do I do? Those were the questions buzzing in my head  as I woke up this morning.  I got home early last evening to watch the Super Eagles' match against the Black Mambas of Mozambique. The minute I dropped my bag, I dived for the remote of the T.V, trying to tune in to AIT(Africa Independent Television)  which would show the match only to be dissapointed. The remote wouldn't work. My younger sister dropped a bomb on me. My mother's travelling down to the east finally in June. This year June? I asked and she said yes. Wow.  She's finally going home to take care of her mom. She also wants me to take over her shop. My mom's the epitome of humanhood. I think I should devote a blog to her. Her mom's my name sake. That's where I got my traditional name from. She was moved from her home in Ohaozara, Ebonyi state to the capital of the state, Abakaliki. I remember vividly the twelve days I spent with her. They were...

My best friend got married last year and a few months later she gave birth and I thought; that's how a marriage should be. U know filled with Love, Trust, Friendship, laughter and children. This isn't back in the day and they accepted themselves as they are. They are young, cute and all.  When I look at married couples today, the thought of marriage flees with alarming speed from my mind. Because I thought it is the end of all struggles of life. Looking at the Bible's perspective which i respect alot, It says in Gen 2 vs 24 "a man shall therefore leave his father and mother and is joined to his wife to become one" It also goes further to say that "what God as joined together,let noman put asunder" People are easily forgetting that. We ladies forget that whichever choices we make, we have to live with it for the rest of our lives , remember the phrase 'for better for worse'? Even if he commits adultery, he is your choice. I feel bad when i he...

It is very hard to state the import of Michael Jackson in the world and in Music in general. I've never had to talk or write about what Michael Jackson meant and still means to me. I have his life and death dvd at home which I play everytime I get. I've loved MJ before I got into my teens. It was his good looks that i loved the most. Next was his dance steps. I was amazed at how a person could be revered as a king. I had no idea there were other musicians. Billie Jean was still making waves and Black and white couldn't seem to stop. This was in middle nineties, when his bad press and controversies started . When I had that a group was planning to bring him to Nigeria, I was elated. I envisioned him as a prince coming to his hometown which he'd left long ago. Not many weeks later, a neighbour told me that my "boyfriend" had to "bleach his skin" to become a white man because he hated the black colour. I was furious. I couldn'...

Everytime I start to relax and believe that there is a different man in this world I tend to be disappointed? Why? Is there no religious or traditional man out there. What's happening? Do men have to lie to get into our pants? I can't help but say that my lack of faith in humanity has been founded. Look at Santa of all people. He started by preaching to me. what happened to practicing what you preach. The last time we went out, he actually suggested that I join him (this was at 2am) in his house after he dropped me @ home. My mind recalled the warning signs that's been there from the first day we met when he asked me to choose having sex with him that night and going for the total experience at the TBS. I refused ofcourse and choose the later. I also remember that I told him that i can't and shouldn't have anyting to do with a married man. He told me he was separated from his wife. I replied by saying, "it doesn't metter to me separated or not u're stil...

Wikipedia defines Virginity as a state of being a vigin. A virgin or a maiden is a woman who's never had sexual intercourse. The word "Virgin" was derived from the Latin Virgo, which means"sexually inexperienced woman". It was meant for adolescents, older women and godesses. Virginity was once regarded as a state of purity and thing of value, somthing to be proud of. There were some traditions, in those days, who regard the loss of virginity before marriage is a matter of deep shame to a family . Now it seems no one wants to be left out of things. Virginity is now seen as a thing of shame in the society. It's ironic how things have changed. Some people think virginity is a curse. They say one has be disvirgined before marriage to allow easy childbirth.What is the world turning into? Safe sex is even much more preached than abstinence. Deciding you want to remain a virgin is one of the most difficcult choices one can ever make. Especially when faced with ...

Hi guys, Last monday morning found me walking on air. I can hear questions; why?I had the most wonderful I mean the best weekend of my life. I met my own Santa. I've been working on this piece since that day, hoping to finsh it but work cum daydreaming wouln't let me.Seriously, am not kidding. I don't mean the red garbed man, no, A real man, different in all ramifications.Hold on let bring my head down from the clouds. Many of us find ourselves in situations where we can't help ourselves. We think dreams are for the would-be cinderrellas or the unserious type. But it is not true. The more you dream about what u want from life, who u want to be and where u want to be, the more u start thinking about putting it to practice, realising it or actualizing, then u're on ur way to achievement. That was just a digression. A week before I meeting my santa, I was depressed. That's depressed with a capital 'D'. I understood why girls my age go into sex hawking. A bo...