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When In Rome

Why do we have relationships? Ideas anyone? To cure loneliness? Safety? Is it because we feel we have attained a certain age we don't want or have to stay alone? I have been wondering about this  but I've been left with an empty feeling in my stomach, you kow that feeling you have as you are the only one in the planet. It's not flattering to be the only girl (I think) who turns married men away. I'm not talking about unserious or irresponsible ones but self-made, serious ones. It's not a new thing for a young girl like me but can be seen as a misuse of opportunities for people more experienced than me.




At a point in one's life, you need a companion, you need somebody u can call ur own, you need a friend who is not just a friend, but a soul mate. I agree to all these points made by by on-line friend, Surya but what happens when it fails? What happens if that spark in your relationships fades and dies? what would you do? Look for another spark or try to ignite that spark in your relationship? 

The economy crunch might be blamed for everything but should it be blamed on our relationships too? Relationships are based on so many factors;sex, friends, fun, etc but at what risks? So many of them. From a peronal experience I've seen women suffer from abuse, different kinds of abuse; heartbreak, rape, battering,hunger, etc.  All because they don't what to be alone? Isn't the price high?

As a girl who believes in fairytales and still do, my idea of a relationship is in contrast to what is in form today. A relationship filled with trust, loyalty and honesty is what should be in vogue, not the give-and take that everyone's used to. Eventually you tire of it, if you are not addicted, and you'll start to yearn for something more lasting and fulfilling. In my short years I've seen relationships that fail because it was built on lies and deceit.

If you find yourself in Rome like I did, what would you do? Act like a Roman (behave and live like they do) or be different. It's not easy, if u're looking for easy don't try to beat them rather, join them. We all have choices to make in life and how we make them is our business and responsiblity. No one makes them for us.

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