Being A Woman in 2020

Being a Woman in 2020 is:

Being called a person who menstruates.

Being called a tree because; no child

Being called a man because you’re decisive and self motivated

Becoming a bread winner because hubby lost his job

Being a humble Bread Winner to avoid being called a witch who cost her husband his livelihood

Saying NO to rape

Saying NO to molestations

Saying No to Female Genital mutilations

Saying No to unwanted affections

Saying NO to harassments of all kinds

Saying NO to domestic abuse.

Having to explain CONSENT

Having no desire for sex at 18

Having to explain your passion for work and why you need to make a living

Having a husband who prefers to live single while being married to you

Having to explain your singleness in your 30s

Having to explain being 40 and having no children

Choosing to live alone and being badgered for it

Choosing comfort over savings

Choosing to trek home rather than accept free rides from strangers to avoid stories that touch

Crying at night because you have no husband at 40

Crying at night because you have a husband but do not know where he is

Crying all day because your husband would not pay attention to your children

Running home from work once it is 5pm

Sleeping at work because it is 7pm and the day’s work no dey finish

Leaving home by 7am

Walking home with people catcalling you

Wearing Midi outfits to avoid stories that touch

Covering your chest to avoid being accused of leading souls to sin

Holding your bags close to your chest to avoid being mugged

Wearing make up to be called "attractive" or "presentable"

Living in a society where people who want to wear skirts, be themselves prefer to call you female rather than a woman.

Living in a “man’s world” even though they totally depend on women.

Jane

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