Jane Chima

On the 31st of January 2011,  I woke up @ 5 am with butterflies in my stomach. What caused them you might ask? Torres was coming to Stamford Bridge. I was going to church with a friend on the day before and thought that I should check BBCFootball on the net for any rumours/gossips. There, lo and behold, was the rumour about a fifty million pound transfer between a London Club and a Merseyside club. I started drooling..who wouldn't want Fernando Torres in their team, even if he is the uneffective and unstriking Fernando Torres. @ 12am it was confirmed and we(the blues fan) were all in cloud 9. F9 is really a beauty and talent to behold.aaaahh. The rest as they say is history.  Now, almost a month to that day, I'm thinking, was it a right choice by Abramovich? We have no doubts he loves Chelsea Fc, any1 who doubts  his love didn't watch last season's last premier league game @ home. The day we lifted the trophy after three years. We loved and still love Drogba, Ashley C...

 Wanted to start my first blog this year with nu resolutions. I wanted start by saying things straight from the heart but i can't. I had details about my holiday. I had plans and tots to share I think it's about time i stop promising and start planning? Don't you? I have two reasons for waking up everyday: Hope and Faith in God. Now, I can honestly say that I might have lost that will and reason to go on. Right from my childhood I've always had that belief(which is still there) that everything is gonna be okay. But now, I don't know anymore. I can say that if my exposures and experiences has done something, it has made me believe in myself. I have composure. Waking up to a father who hasn't given neither love nor affection not to talk of money ever since i left high school, saying I haven't given him anything but achieved nothing is my bad idea of waking up. I'm ending this blog by saying that no matter how tough a day is, no matte...

Single hood is a very special stage of one's life a time for self discovery but there'll come a time when you'll yearn to have someone to call "your own".  The apartment you spent so much time decorating and furnishing, wardropes you spent money on and hobbies may no longer be of use and interest to you . You'd want to have someone to come home to.  To laugh at your jokes funny or not. Someone to spend time with, if not for life for a long, long while. Completeness. Fulfilment.  Contrary to what people say and believe, making the right choice doesn't start with you. You have to go down on your knees first, ask God to help you. Everything is in God's hand, past, present and the future. Humans have unpredictable natures so they are wont to change. Most times we make decisions we feel is right but may bring about our downfall. A failed relationship/marriage creates a big dent in one's life. Choosing the ...

Good Morning, Big Man. How was your 9te? Do U even spend 9tes. Am just curious 'cos U made them. I'm also wondering if U knew that most of us humans spend our 9tes tossing and turning on our beds, worrying needlessly about when our next meals will come. If I may ask, why create the 9te in the first place? Why create the 9te? Is it to remind us of the difference between good and evil,light and darkness, give us a deserved and earned rest after a day of pleasing insatiable customers and superiors? Or just to make us regret our choices? Or to create job opportunities to clean ladies,graduates among them who have lost hopes of using their brains? Do U ever sleep or are U also worried about us? Do U have a bed in which U toss and turn, wondering why human U created with Ur Own hands are unfeeling, selfish and cruel? I know I'm not supposed to complain.It might be a blasphemy but U know/knew my thoughts, good and evil,surely U anticipated this ...

Saturday, May 22, 2010 is going into history records not just because Bayern Munich, German giants are meeting the Nerazzurris(it means"the black and blue ones" in Italian) Inter Milan but that Teacher(Van Gaal) and and Student(Mourinho) are going to meet. They've both worked together in Spain. The nerrazurris are favorites after beating defending champions Barcelona(another Spanish giant) in the Semi Finals. It was not just unexpected and unbelievable that Mourinho's boys would beat Barca 3-1 in the first leg, it was shameful. I learnt Barca hasn't been beaten that way before away or at home. The night I watched the 2nd leg(yes watched), I was rooting for Inter and I knew with the way they played Chelsea(my club), won the first leg, they would do their best to win Barcelona which they did . I was ecstatic. I had Barca friends who made jest of Chelsea when they lost to Inter both home and way so I had something to hold against them. I'm not roo...

Ok, so I was warned. I was told that only a dog goes back to its vomit but I didn't care, after all I'm not a dog, I'm human and as a human cum woman, I deserve to have some human sympathy. It's his fault for being cute and saying 9ce things that I couldn't help but say "ok, lets give it another try". I gave us a week and I felt it was the biggest mistake I've ever made. I never missed him and I didn't feel guilty about it instead I missed someone else(name witheld). Now, whenever he sees me, he crosses the next street. Men and their lies, ha!! I get a flashback anytime I see him about those promises he made, those seem-like truths that kept pouring from his mouth.I kick my self mentally by reminding myself that I made the last decision and the last scene,which was quite interesting(don't ask). I guess it was pity not even like that made me think it might work but hey we've broken up and I couldn't be happier about it.So, gals broke...

Oh yes, they are. they are an inspiration for youngsters of today whose interests are in Afro hip-hop. Recently, they were nominated along with M.I, etc, for the BET  10th Annual Awards as the best international acts. Yes, BET for B lack E ntertainment T elevision. Naturally, I'm happy that Nigerians are getting recognition as they should, but I gotta give it to P-square . A few weeks ago, they were awarded the highest award in Africa, in music, at the Kora Music awards  as the Best African Act. To be fair, I've had a crush on the both of them particularly Peter ever since there first classic hit "Last night". Their moves and grooves always keeps me at the edge of my seat. The release of the "Senorita" video kept me entralled and couldn't stop many of us fans, from loving them more and more. Since 2003 till date, P-square has released a total of four(4) albums which has garnered them lots of fans, fame, nominations and awards nationall ...

Ha!!! One of the most common topics you might say, but it's really not easy to face. You can't tell until you're in that situation but speaking from experience, I can say it's one of the most dangerous situations one can ever face: your means of livelihood is at stake, your peace of mind wretched. What more is there when whenever u wake up in the morning with your alarm ringing in your ear, and the prospect of dressing up for work is not appealling to you? We are supposed to be in love with our jobs and careers.They are and should remain one of those things we love doing it/them. You may be tempted to resign or become rude to him/her both of which are the most cowardly things to do. We must learn to face challenges instead of running from them as they prepare us for whats to come. Your boss may be teaching you or want you to learn based/from on her own experiences and history. He/She may be mean due to personal problems at home or challenges

Why do we have relationships? Ideas anyone? To cure loneliness? Safety? Is it because we feel we have attained a certain age we don't want or have to stay alone? I have been wondering about this  but I've been left with an empty feeling in my stomach, you kow that feeling you have as you are the only one in the planet. It's not flattering to be the only girl (I think) who turns married men away. I'm not talking about unserious or irresponsible ones but self-made, serious ones. It's not a new thing for a young girl like me but can be seen as a misuse of opportunities for people more experienced than me. At a point in one's life, you need a companion, you need somebody u can call ur own, you need a friend who is not just a friend, but a soul mate. I agree to all these points made by by on-line friend, Surya but what happens when it fails? What happens if that spark in your relationships fades and dies? what would you do? Look for another spark or try to...

Hey!!! It feels good to be back, if I should say so since it's more than a month from my last post. So many things can and has happened within that time that I may not be able to tell. I have to admit that it's been a great, great time. A great learning stage for me. it's true what they say that you don't know how strong you are until u face a challenge. I have seen that and I have to say that it's been a disappointment to me to find out that I'm not as strong as I thought myself to be. Though, I further surprised myself by holding on to what I felt was right. I wanted my Easter holiday to be my time for sober reflection. A time I get to go far, far away from everything, everyone that knows me. Just to leave my world. Believe me that world can be tiring most times. Not for the first time(if ya'all could know) have I felt that way, but this time I knew I was just a little step between sanity and insanity. I just needed a break I knew was not to come, yet. Th...

Two weeks ago, I was going through my profile in one of my numerous social websites, when I came accross an information that would become a bomb, literally speaking, in the entertainment industry; Genevieve is dating D'banj, D'banj confirms it! What?!! was my first thought. these journalist are at "it" again writing so they can make a few bucks. How could someone publish such rubbish? It can't be true. Salt and oil can't mix or so I thought. A week later when Genevieve was asked to confirm the news she neither confirmed nor denied the claim made by D'banj. She was quoted by Encomium magazine  saying: "I can only say that I would like to keep my private life private and I really don't have anything to say" and "Dbanj is an adult and he has said something. Let's just leave it at that, " Surely, we  your loyal fans deserve some answers, Genevieve. We don't mean to pry into your private affairs but we care for yo...

Have you ever wondered if the decisions you're about to take is right or wrong? That's exactly how I'm feeling right now. It feels like being snared in a trapped not knowing which way to go, right or left. I'm counting down to the day I'll finally say goodbye to having a job. I have a wonderful job which I'm about to drop.So far, it hasn't been easy a decision to make. I had to use the paper, pen and ruler method, weighing the advantages and disadvantages. From where I stood a few weeks ago, it was clear, now it's not too clear. I can't help thinking if I'm about to take one of the best or worst decisions of my life.  While deciding, it turned out the positives of this change overshadowed the negatives. So here I am, 15 days to having no job and being a business woman. I just updated my status on facebook about being unique and different. Let me ask a question. How many twenty two year female Nigerians lives in lagos, has no "big daddy...

Was bored last afternoon, so I decided to join a yahoo chat room. Signing in to yahoo messenger took me no time at all. Ignoring my offline messages, I went straight to Yahoo Messenger joining, the 20's chat room but was dumbfounded by what I saw: "Honey women see me live on my webcam"    and            " how to find free sex online" Eyes poppingI left the room immediately. Checking other rooms I found the same results. Eeeeeeh, where can I find Tru talk without sex? I wondered. Guys and girls wanting to be laid are everywhere. I don't want to be laid, I fumed, I just want to talk. Just talk. I remembered an experience I won't easily forget. Late last year I met someone online. I'll call him Rob, a Nigerian. I felt lucky we'd talk on phone and online. We talked about everything. Then out of the blue he wanted sex online or on phone. I was disappointed. To cut the story short, we decided not t...

I enjoy Facebook totally. I mean it's a friend I may never have. I can share my thoughts and opinions whether it makes sense or not. Before I joined, I always wondered what it was like and I would look at the users and wonder what would make them spend hours on end on that particular social website. I called it a waste of time and money. Then I was tempted into registering having no idea what I was getting myself into. I must admit that I've come to find succour in that social networking site. If am pissed, happy and sad I can share it with people who don't know me from Adam, but may feel the same way I feel and tell me what to do about it. I know there are big risks involved in giving your private information to people you barely know but it pales in comparison to the positivity of meeting people online who share the same values, beliefs, aspirations, feelings and hopes that you have. Opinions vary on facebook.Some may see it as an avenue for defraudin...

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Ever watched a Bollywood movie before? No? Then you need to start watching them because it is  the hottest movie industry in town now especially in Nigeria. Apart from the fact that it teaches moral values and lessons in love, it also show cases Indian cultures and traditions. Bollywood movies to me, are inspiring. The term, Bollywood, is an informal term popularly used for the Hindi-language film industry based in Mumbai, India. Bollywood industry is just a part of the indian cinema but it is often incorrectly used to refer to all the movie industries in India. It is the largest film producer in India. Unlike Hollywood, Bollywood doesn't exist as a physical place. Actors like Amitabh Bachchan, Sunny Deol, Shah Rukh Khan (nicknamed King Khan), etc, have made earned worldwide accolades for their roles in popular bollywood movies like Khabi Khushi Khabi gham, Mother India and Deewana respectively. In Nigeria, barely can you find a home or cinema without Bollywood...

http://www.momlogic.com/2010/02/valentines_day_aftermath.php Being Single is one of the best thing that has ever happened to us. It is a time you think and feel only you. You have more time for yourself,  time to set priorities, create and achieve goals and objectives.  Unfortunately, many females to do not agree with this fact. We are always in a hurry to get married because; My clock is ticking My mates are already married   Indeed my Mom reminds of my single status most times that I'd begin to wonder if it's a a crime or my wish to remain single. Whichever reasons we may have, it is important to note that being single doesn't mean being lonely. It is not a crime but is it by choice. It means freedom, making your own decisions at your own time, space and risk. No inhibitions. Opportunities abound that you can only grasp by being a single person so here are tips to enjoying your singlehood; Making tim...

February 1, 2009, will always remain in my memory. It was my second time of being in Songhai Porto- novo. The first time I went to Porto-Novo was in August 2008. I worked then as an assistant with Tell. Assistants in Tell do a bit of everything, still I was dumbfoundded when I was told I would be going with the Corporate Affairs department down to Porto-Novo. I couldn't really relish it because it was unbelievable and painfull at the same time. Unbelievable because I didn't feel worthy enough to have gone, painful because my colleagues weren't too happy with me going thereby giving me silent treatment. So when I was picked the second time, I left all my cares in the wind. That day in February was and would be always stick in my memory. I met personalities made friends with them and even had a few suitors. It was memorable. I understood nature and people. My superior who I assisted, taught me so many things I'd never forget and i'll forever be grateful for. The p...

What do I want? This has been the question bothering me this week. How can I be myself? How do I know myself.  How do I know what I want. I googled it and came across interesting things. For someone like me I  realised that the main problem we face is that we don't know what we want from life which is why when it comes to making decisions, we flop.  Wobbling in indecisions we jump at any opportunities that comes our way. This can be quite disastrous because any decisions we make today affects our tommorrow. Here a few tips: The first step to take to knowing what you want is Finding yourself. Finding yourself means knowing who you are, your likes, what you can do. It also means knowing knowing your limitations, strengths and weaknesses, hereby making your confidence in yourself grow. Start with a new and clean slate. Put God first . Apart from being our creator, God has been the Author and Finisher o...

That's me in my office, last friday, two days before Val. Looking at this picture,  it appears I have no worries or cares in the world.  This year's Valentine found me in one of my friends home.Right from my teenage years, I've been attached to couples and their kids. I must admit that I learned alot doing this. You get experience from experiences. I wanted to have a unique valentine this year and out of a lot of choices I decided to spend it, even if it's a couple of hours, with a family I've known for a long time. It had been approximately four years since i last saw them, so I decided on that fateful day, February 13, 2010 to pay a visit to them. As I prepared to go to their home in Captain, Abulegba, I had a flash back;  Seven years ago, a set of twins was born to the family of Daniel Odeh and barely two months later, I got to know them through one of my Mom's friends. I also knew they needed help taking care of ...